When I Fall Back Into My Codependency Again I wish I could tell you that once you recognize your codependency, it disappears forever.It doesn’t.There are days when I catch myself slipping back into old patterns. I feel responsible for fixing a problem that isn’t mine. I say “yes” when every part of me is whispering,... Continue Reading →
Have you ever noticed how much stuff we save for later?The good dishes.The expensive candle that smells amazing but apparently must remain unlit until royalty visits. The outfit hanging in the closet waiting for the “right occasion.”The bottle of perfume we use one tiny spritz at a time because we don’t want to run out.And... Continue Reading →
There was a time in my life when I thought simply making it through the day was enough. Wake up. Check the boxes. Handle the next problem. Go to bed. Repeat. From the outside, life looked normal. But inside, I wasn't really living. I was surviving. The truth is, surviving isn't the same as living.... Continue Reading →
Last week I had breakfast with a friend who had recently lost her husband unexpectedly. As we talked I found that her grief and my grief even though different, had a lot in common. I used to think grief only came after someone died. But life has taught me differently. Grief arrives in many forms.... Continue Reading →
One of the first things I learned after being diagnosed with multiple sclerosis was this simple statement: “If you know one person with multiple sclerosis, then you have met one person with multiple sclerosis.” At first, I didn’t fully understand what it meant. Now I do. Multiple sclerosis doesn’t follow a script. It doesn’t affect... Continue Reading →
Oh How I Remember That Phrase Our minds never seem to clock out. Thoughts stream through all day long. Some inspire us. Others criticize us, predict disaster, or replay conversations we'd rather forget. The surprising part is that not every thought deserves to be believed. For years, I treated every thought as if it were... Continue Reading →